“Let’s run down and shag one of those cows.”

“Nah, lets walk down and shag them all.”

Sean Penn spun this message/tale in a film some years back. Some things work better than others. As much as you might like to do things in a certain way, only some ways of doing things work out well in practice.

Running down the hill creates alarm and panic. Obviously. A subtle gentle approach is much more productive. With humans or cows. Creating familiarity first helps. People tend to side with those they know. People are more likely to couple up for the night with someone they know, even someone they know a little, than a complete stranger. Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t.

You may dwell deeply into nihilistic thoughts - that nothing matters in the grand scheme of things. If you are going to die at some point, then why not give anything a try. The nihilistic thoughts might give you the confidence and encouragement to go and seek what you want, but the harsh reality of what works and what doesn’t still remains.

You could ask out fifty strangers today and be unperturbed by the rejections. Rejection after rejection ignoring anyone that gets very annoyed by your harrying. Despite your indifference towards other people’s desire to be left alone, you fail. There are other ways to achieve the same objective.

We can’t just do whatever we want to do. There are rules in place. Those rules have emerged from years of trying. The society as a whole learns.

There are ways to make ourselves more popular. And ways to alienate.

I am not saying much here that most mature adults would not fully understand already.

I raise the issue simply to remind myself that patience is key. It also reminds me to keep having multiple threads going on at the same time which ought to move me closer to what I want. I need not wait for the outcome of one thread before I start the next. More threads equates to more chances.

31st January 2026

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