One child produced per thousand sexual acts

One child per thousand sexual acts

The fairy-tale goes something like this: Boy meets girl. They fall in love and get married. They consummate the marriage and have sex each time they want another child. The sex was for procreation only, all structured, respectful, and abiding to long held customs. This narrative paints a very different picture to the one most often observed. The fairy-tale is fictitious and fanciful, it belies palpability in the real world. A much more reasoned guess is that a typical individual may have sex of some sort around two thousand times, maybe more maybe less. Whilst this might be a bit of a generalisation, you can come to this kind of calculation by adding up every night in the first year of getting together with every other night the year after and the once or so a week thereafter. If you include all the healthy masturbation before during and after any relationship, the total is truly justified. We have sex thousands of times yet the number of children we have can be counted on one hand. Now an ardent contraceptive avoiding couple may have a quantity of children that reaches double figures. Yet if you take into account the couples that have none, you find the average is closer to two. So, one child per thousand times you do it. To propose that the principal reason we have sex is to multiply seems farcical. It is much more prudent to think of sex existing for fun and pleasure and any offspring arising as incidental.

Sexual attraction brings us together; we and all the other animals have this primitive natural inclination. The scent from hormones can trigger and arouse. We witness animals sniffing one another to see if they are on heat, Whatever the spur, animals get frisky, and they want that release. The release is pleasurable for all animals. Some like to suppress our sexual activities, spouting moral ideologies that run counter to important animal desires.

Explorers visited previously ‘uncontacted people’ in remote tribes who hadn’t made the connection between having sex and pregnancy. They did not know that humping had anything to do with the children that popped out. Most of us have had sex education so it seems absurd to not know this, but I as a child had no idea about the process. I doubt any of us would either, unless they had it explained to them. It means that we had sex as a bonding mechanism not as a conscious means to reproduce. Given that a tiny hit rate is sufficient to sustain the world population, it doesn’t matter how many sexual acts bring about babies. Rather than thinking that sex is for reproduction, think of sex as a lure to induce people to bond. It is an inducement that happens to bring about the occasional addition.