One child produced per thousand sexual acts

One child per thousand sexual acts

The fairy-tale goes something like this: Girl meets boy. They fall in love. They get married and consummate it. From that point on they only have sex when they want another child. The sex is for procreation and nothing more. This fairy-tale is fictitious and fanciful. It belies palpability in our disparate world. Rather than having sex once or twice per child born, we have sex a thousand times per child born. Many people have sex every night for the first year. Once every other night during the second year. Once or so a week thereafter. If you include all the healthy masturbation before during and after any relationship, we have sex many thousands of times. An ardent contraceptive avoiding couple may have a quantity of children that reaches double figures. But if you take into account the couples that have none, you find the average number of children per couple is not much above two. So, one child born per thousand times you have sex. If we have sex a thousand times, and in that time only produce one child, it is farcical to claim that the principal reason we have sex is to multiply. Sex is for fun. Sex is for pleasure. Any offspring arising is incidental.

Evolution stumbles upon ways to make sex more fun and alluring. Sexual attraction brings us together; we and all the other animals have this primitive natural inclination. The scent from hormones can trigger and arouse. We witness animals sniffing one another to see if they are on heat, Whatever the spur, animals get frisky, and they want that release. The release is pleasurable for all animals. Some like to suppress our sexual activities, spouting moral ideologies that run counter to important animal desires.

Many remote tribes failed to make the connection between having sex and pregnancy. They did not know that intercourse had anything to do with the children that emerged. Most of us have had sex education so it seems absurd to not know this, but I as a child had no idea about the process. I doubt any of us would either, unless they had it explained to them. It means that we had sex as a bonding mechanism not as a conscious means to reproduce. Given that a tiny hit rate is sufficient to sustain the world population, it doesn’t matter how many sexual acts bring about babies. Rather than thinking that sex is for reproduction, think of sex as a lure to induce people to bond. It is an inducement that happens to bring about the occasional addition.