Children

You need not travel far to have one of the biggest and best adventures of your life, having children. Whilst the first couple of years can be particularly taxing, a bit of an ordeal, after two or so years things for the most part improve dramatically. Your offspring become far more interactive and begin the transition from being a pain to become little helpers. It remains joyous until a small period in their teens when hormones run wild. It is at that point when mind games and other new challenges arise. Those that take a different view, where they see nothing but difficulties at all ages, might want to see if a different approach to their parenting makes life easier. Those who don’t have children may have childish adults to contend with and can use the same handling techniques.

We might think we are doing everything the right way when it comes to parenting, but no parent gets everything right. Here we can simply compare your ways to some alternatives. Although most parents do well in a lot of respects, there is often room for improvement. I know, time, money, circumstances, patience, the battle of wills, makes me sure that there is never an absolute right way in every situation.

A magnet will pick up metals, iron in particular. Try using a magnet to pick up a wine glass and you find it will not work. So, there is a kind of natural order. It is a bit cheeky to apply that principle to children as a way to claim that some things work better. Nevertheless, those seeking ways to make it easier, less stressful, might like something to consider especially when a child is hard to manage. All without being too insistent that there is only one correct way in every circumstance.

In some countries, you move a car a few yards and get given a driving licence. In other places, you sit with an instructor for thirty hours or more and have significant instruction. When it comes to children, we don’t have to pass a test before we are allowed to bring a sperm in contact with an egg. If your children are not assets, but liabilities, are you not fishing around with that magnet hoping for it to stick? Typically, we have a parenting style that is similar to that of our own parents. Occasionally we will make a change or two, sometimes shifting from one extreme to another.

There is really only one true aim; to create independent offspring. Children than can manage on their own with less and less support from you. Pretty obvious given that humanity cannot continue otherwise. Whilst for some this is not possible due to physical and mental handicaps, the more they can do for themselves the better, better for them and you.