Psychology presumptions

Not worth it

Jane feared her father going after the rapist, so she decided that she would not report the attacker. Not worth it. Sarah felt the same, as did Racheal. Tina on the other hand stepped up and pressed charges. The rapist was found guilty. The story made the local news. Jane, Sarah and Racheal wrote a follow-up story stating their trouble they had with this rapist. They mentioned how glad they were to see him behind bars. Tina became furious. Had any one of those women reported the rapist she would not have been subjected to her ordeal. In many cases, rapists commit six crimes before being put on trial. Maybe the fathers would fume rather than be violent. Maybe this, maybe that. If a society wants to lower the rate of sexual assaults, more need to act. Men can suffer in similar ways, at similar rates and will find it very hard to come forward. Man on man rape receives a different level of sympathy. Shame and disgust hinder getting help. However, the not worth it mentality allows dreadful things to persist.

Every false accusation damages the cause. They dilute the potential to obtain convictions. It adds another tale that can be used by the defence to cast doubt on those making valid accusations. Which is the most chronic, false accusations or non-reporting? There is no definitive answer. When someone makes a false accusation, they find themselves trapped. They find it incredibly difficult to reveal the truth. The longer we stick to the story, the harder it becomes to set the record straight. Do the right thing. A huge weight will be lifted from you. The sooner you admit your error, the more easily you will be forgiven. It is never too late to admit your mistake though. Do the right thing.

Knowledge is a powerful thing. Know this. Those you spurned often make false accusations. Let people down gently. Very gently. Very carefully. An unwanted kiss. An approach by someone far too young. Unrequited love. A thousand scenarios with a common theme. You most likely did the right thing. You rejected out of decency, but the spurned retaliate. It seems sensible and proper to ignore the one you rejected. Perhaps give them a little attention instead. Not too much, just a little to allow the feelings to settle.