Proving oneself

A point of difference

Too similar, too different who do we fit in the best with? Similar but with points of difference works nicely. Similar to others in many respects whilst having something a little different to give us a sense of identity. If we become a lot wealthier, we are viewed differently, spitting us out of former circles. Some will take great satisfaction by going in the other direction; being capable of living a sparse existence and being boastful of how much they can manage without. Some have the desire to be well known: different from the rest. Others may highlight their ownership of a unique possession, different to that of everyone else.

With our friends we tend to have a good few similar interests, but also have some different joys that add something, helping to avoid too much stale conversation. Interest groups working for a common cause benefit from having people with unique things to bring to the table. Similar aims with a shared vision and an acceptance of some that are a little odd and stand out a bit. In the cave dwelling days, each of us would be put to use, some cooking, some hunting, some sorting the fire. Each of us had a role to play that gave us a place in the group. Together as one, but all with different skills on hand. It gave us a sense of being needed and valued. On the social circuit having something that makes us stand out a little, stops us appearing a bit dull.

In some instances, your contribution might be big, but do not be under any illusion that you can’t be replaced even if by someone that can do nearly as well, sufficiently to get by. Haughty individuals may wander upon the stage thinking that people can’t do without them. They are alarmed when shown this is not the case when things carry on in their absence.

You can mix with people from all walks of life, but the understanding is so much greater with those on the same level. People with different privileges have a different outlook. Those who have careers in the army struggle to convey what is was like on the battlefield to those that have not immersed themselves in it. Memories and understanding are derived from physical experiences. To relate with them you had to be there.