Cis

According to some you are either trans or cis. Someone, somewhere at some point has decided to create a binary. A binary that no one asked for, nor seems to want. It is hard to put your finger on why someone does not like having the cis label added to their gender. Cis woman, cis man and presumably a cis intersex.

How about I create a binary too. You are either a normal person or a transvestite. Is my binary acceptable? Would you like us to refer to trans people as transvestites? Binary of the week; normal/transvestite. (Normal; statistically so, typical, most common rather than a differential between normal/abnormal).

One question I would like to know is at what point does one stop being a cis male/female and transform into a trans person? After surgery? After a solemn declaration is made. Who knows, who decides and who cares.

A parallel irritation; being referred to as either Christian or non-Christian. Why is that an irritation? If I am a Sikh, Hindu, Muslim, Jehovah witness or member of any one of eighty thousand religions I am that, not a non-Chistian. I am not a Christian. Not and non, infer a critically different concept. Not is not binary. Non is binary. Non-Christian is binary whereas not Chistian is not. Not Chistian accepts and acknowledges people may have an equally valid faith as Christians. Incidentally, I am not Christian, nor am I an atheist/agnostic for I believe in something far better.

Given that no one in my mind is 100 percent male, nor 100 percent female it makes the binary even more irrational. I often think of myself as 80 percent male and 20 percent female. That is how I see myself. Some masculine gentlemen will usually admit to having a feminine side in some areas. They may decide that they are 95 percent male and five percent female. Whatever the case we will have a little of the opposite gender/sex within us and admit to that if we are honest. On aggregate we tend to see ourselves as falling into one of the two camps. On aggregate we are male, or on aggregate we are female. So too will intersex people, though some accept who they are, and simply consider themselves as intersex.

People object to being referred to as a cis man/woman/intersex and rightly so. Maybe because being in the trans camp of the trans/cis binary infers superiority. Maybe because cis is a root part of the word cistern. Aka a toilet.

By all means use your jargon in your closed trans group discussions. However, please respect our wishes. Trans people want to be included, accepted and treated equally. We all do. Putting binary labels on those that do not want them placed on them is incredibly disrespectful. Trans people must understand that adding the cis label to those that are not trans is as aggravating as calling a brown person a Nxxxer.

Disrespectful binary: cis/trans.

Respectful binary: trans/not trans.

Man, woman, intersex - inherently implies not trans. Therefore, we need not say, not-trans-man, not-trans-woman, nor not-trans-intersex. We simple say, man, woman or intersex. The not trans element is assumed. If one wants to annotate themselves as a trans-woman, trans-man that is their prerogative.

Why does cis feel like a cist? An addition to oneself that we do not want or need. The origination is reasonable. The adaption from chemistry, being on the same side. Feeling inside, a woman, in a masculine body. Feeling inside, a man, in a feminine body. That vs feeling like a man/woman in the respective masculine/feminine body. In the Trans the blue/orange elements are not on the same side at birth.

A kaffir is a name give to a non-muslim - someone that is not a muslim. It is a sneer at best, a slur at worst.

A heretic/atheist is a name given to a non-christian - someone that is not a christian. It is a sneer or an excluded individual. Heritic and non bleivers were treated very badly in the past.

I could come up with a name for those that are not vegan. Or not this or not that. What I can do is keep all happy. Not trans, not vegan, not muslim, not christian and not give a monicker to those that are not in that club.